As I mentioned on another thread I have been spending many nights (most, in fact) sleeping with baby. We've all had a head cold and between that and teething and the fact that H doesn't care where I sleep I've been sleeping with the baby in his room. I have gone to bed without any big hurrah, no hugs or kisses. I take the baby around to kiss everyone but I don't present my lips to H. Increasingly I'm uncomfortable changing in H's presence. Doesn't do anything for him why waste it?
Well, DD3 who has always preferred her Daddy to everyone in the world has become enamored of me lately and asked to sleep in the baby's room with me. I allowed her to do so one night over the weekend and again a few nights later. H finally makes a comment that "everyone needs to sleep in their own bed tonight". Didn't make any difference in his behavior but I did sleep in my own bed until 3am and just got up to comfort the baby here and there and came back, at 3am I sayed in baby's room for my final 3 hours before the alarm. It seems that H may be taking notice of my not chasing him and might actually be wondering what is going on.
It is like "going dark" or "wearing veils" - at first H thought he died and went to heaven because I was so quiet, didn't even ask for any alone time on my birthday, during the holidays.......nothing and he dove in headfirst with the kids. He is happily doing homework and special projects with all three of the older ones while I do baby duty. I do feel as if in the last week or so he looked up and thought to himself "Now where did she go??". Like hairdog and the end of the moratorium the biggest error I could make would be to jump on small signs that he has noticed my lack of presence.
Or.... I could be sealing the demise of the R - "out of sight, out of mind." I don't plan on leaving things this way forever. I do plan on adressing them but in a different way than I have done previously.
