My second topic locked....I'm becoming a regular. Not good.
As an update; expecting to be served tomorrow. W has no intentions of trying at all. OM in picture, not sure how involved he is, she has told me she has a 'crush' on him, but it's definitely changed my W's view of me in a hurry. I'd like for him to disappear...poof! I would love to 'serve' his wife tomorrow after I'm served...I know that's not recommended, but I'd love to make his life miserable too.
So....had a very good coaching session this morning. Improved my PMA immensly, helped me set some good goals for the coming days, as well as give me confidence in my abilities. I am still hopeful. We have a long way to go.
One of the topics in our discussion was not letting W believe I had any hope. In the past this was potentially making her react to me in negative ways to proove there is no hope, when in fact she is confused and has shown that potential. By me showing hope to her, she never really has to think about me really moving on, me really detaching, and her truly living without me. I'm going to do my best at this. Show her no hope.
However, my question has arisen regarding wedding rings. She has removed hers. I am still wearing mine. If served, is removing my ring showing a sign that I am not giving off the impression of hope? Is it detaching, becoming more independent, a moving on signal? It sort of scares me because I do still have optimism, crazy as it seems.
My other question is in regards to IT...how do I post in my history links to my previous threads as only two words and not the entire HTML?
