I am serious...you have to worry about you in all of this too...it might be hard...and I am not recommending you D your H or hook up with OM again...but sometimes seperation can be a good thing...and a good motivator...no sure what your laws are there but if you could file a legal seperation to protect yourself...walk away from all this stress and get your own life in order...let H hit the bottom...file YOUR taxes...yes, financially it might hit but what is going to HIT YOU IF YOU STAY CONNECTED to all of this???
It is easy to say...let H deal with the yard, the taxes, the dog...or it is easy to say give them a deadline (like that worked for the city)and do it yourself...why MUST you be the bad guy???...give it back to them to deal with and move on...I have a feeling that will greatly change the dynamics of things...if not for everyone...at least for you...
Of course...these are my opinions...get some good legal advice and see what they say???...I think you need to do something different...besides "a wishin' and a hopin'"
