It is amazing how they switch their thinking in order to justify their actions. Someone said that when you lie and live a lie, it actually becomes the "truth" so they can continue doing mean and evil things in the most absurb circumstances. I also know that when we have good moments they cannot last since my W has changed her thinking and I am the bad one who led her to all this in a way. It is so hard to keep at it, and sometimes one wonders if or where there might be a light at the end of the tunnel.
As I say a huge rollercoaster and one is entitled to a few bad days every now and again, and I know how hard it is to keep smiling.
I wish you nothing but the best and nothing but love and happiness.