My H actually asked me before the sep--Is there a way for me to remain committed to the family and not committed to you?
Can you believe that I still didn't realize the PA then? Talk about denial...
If he wants to be friends...well, that is something that I struggled with, too. COG's story talks about how he dug very deep to do that, and it worked for him. I think there are other success stories that have the same theme. I wasn't strong enough to do that, myself. In the end, you have to do what is ok for you--
Read through my latest thread--there are comments there about the Surrendered Wife, and on being the closest friend to your WAS. I think there are other similar stories on the advice for newcomers page...
Let us know how you think you might handle this....we care about you, Casey.
