W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[Lanzo]

Hi GFI,

I'm at a point where I have survived the bomb, I have withstood W's intense anger, and believe me she was angry with me. Angry with me for HER PA, angry with me because I moved out for 2 months, angry with me because I moved into the spare room when I came home, angry with me for just about anything that was wrong in the world.

Since then I've worked hard and the anger has died down. I can see all these positive changes and I have been looking for guidance on how to use them wisely without blowing things. That's why I'm trying to talk to people who are past the initial shock and panic stage and have moved a similar distance to what I have.

The dilemma I have now is I know W happy is for me to do the talking to convince her the M is worth saving, even though we've both said it's done. (My little 180 about the "M is over" got noticed) But she isn't saying or giving any signs to convince or reassure me that she wants to work on the M. This leads me to think I need to push, but DB principles say wait until she comes round in her own time. But I don't want to wait in limbo for ever not knowing where she's at. OK, I'll answer my own statement now, Time is on my side, be patient, GAL etc.

Also if I look at W she isn't exactly running from me now so I know my chances are better than zero. Knowing what W is like, at this moment she is happy to do family stuff with me, but a physical relationship is miles off until a lot of our deeper issues are resolved ,but she isn't moving towards resolving any of these. Me like most men could handle some physical stuff while working on the M.

So I still have a lot of things going round in my head but I think at this moment in time I have to wait, which is even more reason why I need feedback to what I'm posting.

With that said.

Yours or any feedback is greatly appreciated.