She's ready to move on

[Michael Mc C]

I think in our situations, we need to move forward towards something...anything...because the current situation is painful and is so obviously not working.

I agree LWB, this just isn't working. Whether that means I need to GAL more or she needs to move out, I'm just not sure. She told me that she was pushing for counseling because she didn't want our marriage to remain in stasis - i.e., the sooner we finish counseling the sooner she can bail. Remember that in early December she was going to spend a weekend with OM even though she knew she could not come back to the house afterwards. Now that OM is gone she has threatened to leave but has made no effort towards that.

You will be the rock your kids need, you will get through this.

If nothing else, I hope I can pull this off. My kids deserve stability and need to feel comfortable. My W cannot do that any longer, regardless of where she lives. She knows how they feel about her behavior and yet she continues (not talking about OM, talking about her absence in our daily lives - she makes appearances but she's not really "here")

You didn't give 'your heart, your soul, your everything' for a roommate; a roommate that isn't even carrying there weight.

This is exactly how it feels. As if I was helping a friend by allowing them to stay here. After time that friend's behavior and selfishness begins to wear on you and you start wondering how best to "push" them out.

The question now is whether it's better to have her physically removed from the home (and the kids) or to simply have her become more removed from MY life (step up GAL and detaching).