Countin down to a great 08

[SueS]

It all goes back to her being immature.. she's never grown up and been responsible for herself. That's her and her mother's fault.

Gee Jar- You just described my H, but instead of being mid 20's, he's 40. He has never lived on his own and has always had either myself or his mom there to do things for him.

SueS

[Larrynarry]

Sad... I'd hate to see her having a MLC. Although I believe this is a mini one. What's going to happen when she hits her 40's?

I mean.. she's young, beautiful, has a good family (her family), has wonderful kids and *ahem* husband, never really wanted for anything.

She was the envy of anyone who knew her. Now she's just another 20 something single mother, living in an apartment barely getting by.

This is better how?

[SueS]

Yeah, it is sad.

With me, we were a couple in our late 30's who had a child. BAM, things changed....well for me. I became the mom who devoted her life to her child. Partly because having a child was what I'd wanted for years and partly because H kind of drifted away and spent his nights out partying or at his buddies house drinking. Eventually, we moved and hoped that things would get better. I had post-baby issues, which I was working on. H always thought the problems had to do with him. I told him I loved him, but he would have to give me time go get past my issues. I felt a great deal of pressure being a working mom, not being able to see my H very often, being the primary breadwinner....etc. H decided that HE wasn't getting enough attention. I admit that I could have done better. My mind always said.....D3 will be in school in a few years....things will improve. H decided the better life will probably be with someone who has 4 kids, to party with 20 somethings and do, as he always has, what ever he wants. We're still under the same roof, which makes life very difficult. I don't want to see him leave, I really don't. That thought makes me fearful that he'd never come back. But, he is craving "space" and wants desperately to get out and away from us. There's a growing part of me that want to say.....Here's your space. I don't want to see you unhappy any more. As unhappy as I am right now, I hate seeing him so angry and unhappy too.

Sorry for the vent.

Here's to Day 2 of the New Year!

SueS

[LL44]

This is better how?

We can see this, but they just don't. Its frustrating.

Glad SO glad to see OM's kids are not at the school anymore. I think that's great, and I also commend your reaction. Calm and nonchalant around W, then dancing out of the school with your handsome self...

[Pamar]

jarhead,

I found the word OK as a lifesaver. They can't follow it up with any smart comments or question it.

Keep up the good work, you are setting some great groundwork for your Ds.