Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #11

[Punktmann]

Imageer, Oh, man,

(The explanation that I got was basically "I'm miserable but you are good to me and a good husband and I tell all my friend what a good father you are")

Sexual orientation aside, I have heard this EXACT thing. Also, "all my friends think I'm crazy to leave you, you're such a good husband."

REALLY?


I am 3/4 of the way through "love must be tough" by James Dobson, and his examples of excuses for spouses leaving for OM/OW, are WORD for WORD what my W has said to me.

I don't mean to be tripe, but my W wanted a breast enhancement, tattoo, dramatically different wardrobe, new body (compliments of YMCA, good for her,) Sports car, less child responsibility, etc.

ANyway, my roundabout point was (now that I'm done griping about my W,) that this truly is NOT about your percieved shortcomings.

Sure, you probably weren't perfect, (even if you do have an igloo and a pet moose,) but really, this is truly about their issues.

Yours chose the alternative lifestyle, possibly with some of the above items added in, but still, it seems that the whole escapism aspect is in effect.

Both chose the OP route.

It will never be enough to escape, to recapture whatever.

BTW, I'm not much af a "sew the red A on her dress" kind of guy, but this
This fiend would have you believe that she is very religious however she cheats on her boy friends, claims that W was right to leave because "you have to go where your heart is" and "Life is too short to be unhappy"

sends me over the top. What a bunch of immature self serving crap.

Actually, as one of my friends just came down with her second bout with breast cancer, I'd like to say "life is too short to waste it fooling around when you have children to love."

I'm sorry that you are still here man, but your strength is an inspiration to the rest of us.

I've had to spend a lot of time reflecting on this and trying to figure out what is really going on.

Sorry my man, but I just don't think that you are at fault here. Based on what she has said, you could have been perfect, and this would still have happened. I'm totally not criticizing, if I spent 1/100th as much time doing something constructive as I do wondering where I went wrong, I could have built a pyramid by now. It's natural for us, but it's also just what they are doing, not what we did.

Heck, anyone with an igloo and a pet Moose is pretty near perfect.

Stay strong.