Cool Story! Finally we stopped confsuing the WAR with the WARRIOR. Your story brings warmth to my heart and a tear to my eye! (HOOAH: Army Stong!) The military here just needed the RIGHT strategy. The CAPABILITY was always here. The newest "Greatest Generation", of NCOs and Mid-grade officers MADE this happen. They knew it all along! The 4th ID just took over in MND Baghdad for the 1st Cavalry Division. Thanks for the leave plan.
Matilda: It sounds like your H.'s reasons for leaving, like my W.'s, are trumped up "statements of charges" to hide the fact that we're all humans, and he's got no real leg to stand on. Was that part of your marriage vows? Better of worse or unless there's dust on the bookcase and dishes in the sink.
I hear all the stuff about "cutting one's losses", "don't settle for being uncomfortably happy", blah, blah, blah............
She's not the woman I married either. She's always been kind of a difficult person, and I've been too laid back. Even when I drew boundaries, they were always met with anger that just intensified for the next conflict. I followed the image of my father as a "husband": worked hard, tried to be at all my kids events, remembered birthdays and anniversaries, but maybe what you have to bring to a marriage has gotten so sophisticated, I just don't read between the lines very well. I din't fulfill her emotional needs. when she finally told me that in cousneling, I worked hard to do that. With NO reciprocation on her part. I got it wrong, but when she TOLD me, I reacted and DIDN't BLOW IT OFF! Who knows? The answer, though matilda is no. She's miserable. I didn't fulfill her needs. Roger. Out. Got it. But I was never filled with vitriol, was never unforgiving. She has never said she was sorry for ANYTHING. I kid you not> ANYTHING, in 20 years. Never made an overture to make up after an argument. Just storfed it inside and got progressively angrier each time. How can you hug a shark, or why would you want to. I wasn't a very openly emotive person. She is, with most of those emotions being insecurity and anger. She did run the household. Did all the bills, shopping, etc, but never had to worry about the next meal or new car. I don't know where o go anymore. I never try and correspond with her. Even the business emails, I'm very pleasant and upbeta. I get no responses. Ever. So, no. I don't want her back, but the loss of my "Family" is still overwhelming. Every thing revolved around us as a family. I don't want to hear the advce "build a new family with new memories". I'll do what I nned to, but I don't have THAT level of optimism. Sorry....Rant...
Cease fire, cease fire....Lock and clear and super-elevate all weapons!
