I am so sorry about your D, but she's inherited your genes so she will recover.
I see your H is in fear. I was talking to my friend tonight, the one who recently discovered the betrayal and she said something very wise. Her H is worried now about what others will think. It seems they get so comfortable about our understanding that they don't worry about their mistakes. But now her H is worried about the judgement of others, she's decided to let the world know. And it has pulled him to a different light. So now she's not the villain. He can see himself through the eyes of the other ones that are not so close but do love him and wish him the best. I think that's what is happening to your H. And I wish that if fixing your R is the best for you both, he doesn't take action too late.
One of my ex-bosses just told me he divorced, he told me that once he's been around after retirement his wife couldn't put up with him. I thought it was so sad. To learn the love of your life was really close and you let them scape. That's true loneliness.
So, my wish for this New Year is that we realize the best achievement is that we know we can be happy, that anyone around us deserve happiness, we did anything possible and we didn't let anyone get in or way. We fought as warriors do. What could be a greater accomplishment?
hurt, I keep looking back on the summer and the bomb thinking to myself "What should I have done differently?". I just don't know, but maybe telling people when I found out would have changed things. I just don't know.
How sad about your ex-boss. That's awful.
We are warriors!!! I can say with honesty that I want H happy, whatever and wherever that may be. I have told him this, and that if its not with me, I'll be sad, but I still want him happy. Happy people make great parents...
LWB, You were perfect, you may not see it now, but believe me, you won't have a nerve of regret looking back.
As you said, happy people make great parents but they make GREAT PEOPLE, those who makes a difference in this world for others than their children too. Sometimes we can touch others not even knowing about it.
I think the trick, and the lesson to be learned is to be happy inspite of them.
Sounds like you had good communication there. I hope that he will take the things you say seriously. It does show how wide the gap of understanding is between the two of you, where he thinks sex would mean nothing to you, and you are afraid of how much it might mean to you. Conversations like that are very good.
I am so sorry about your little girl's tummy. I went through that with 2 of my kids. With Kevin we went to a pediatric gastroenterologist and he wanted to scope him. But my brother had us treat him with ulcer medication first. He said scoping was traumatic to children. for him, di-gel did the trick. Then my daughter went through it and the pediatrician insisted on testing her over and over for parasites, which she never had. I gave her over the counter zantac and she was better. If the medication is not working for her, it is not the right medication. When you find the right one, it works almost immediately. Good luck.
Oh Sara, so do you think she might need another form of reflux/ulcer med? She was on Zantac as a baby, I wonder if we should try that again. I'll know more tomorrow.
