Mark- I have to respectfully disagree with L.T. partially anyway. I think you need to be honest with your kids. If the divorce is in fact her idea and she does not want to work on your marriage, the kids, at least the older ones deserve to know that their did did not want this and that their dad took the high road. I learned from my 16yo son last week that he is well aware of what role the OM has in my CW's life. They are smart.
I have told my kids that this is my wife's idea. I went into it deeper with S16 than S6, but none the less I told the truth. With S6, he said to me once, "I wish you and mom still lived together." I wasn't about to lie to him. I simply told him, "I do too. Unfortunately your mom doesn't want to."
You are a good man Mark. Continue to be a good man. Continue to stand tall and be the rock that your kids need.
God Bless.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
