Also, I have made clear to her that, when we tell the kids we are divorcing, we will not say, "We have decided to divorce." It will be on her. In fact, I told her my line to the kids will be, “Mom is not happy, and she believes that she will be happy if she divorces me.” Her blood ran cold when I told her this. However, she knows that it's accurate. She also knows how superficial and selfish it sounds. Because it is.
Hi Mark,
You know she is being an a$$ but your kids need to know that you both love them and while you are both imperfect, it doesn't serve any purpose to point out the other parent's faults to the children. Don't tell the kids that it's mum's idea. It will come back to bite you. It will hurt the kids unecessarily. Your wife will feel attacked adn will defend. It may get ugly adn you don't want that in front of your kids. Take the high road.
