I find it interesting that your W gets angry and feels smothered when you tell her you love her. My H2B was like that too, before the bomb. My advice, if you're asking, is to stop telling her that.
Remember one of the basic rules is to stop doing what's not working. Maybe some 180's are in order. Positive ones, of course.
Maybe some 180's are in order. Positive ones, of course. 
