There is a big differance between doing it because you want to, and doing it as a covert contract. You dont have to fetch coffee and pay for movie tickets or do foot rubs to EARN sex. That exists only in Your mind. Not hers. If it exists in her mind, it was put there.
When I did/do that I am not trying to earn sex. I dont feel cheated if it doesnt happen. Im doing her a favor. Its also a more effective way to show her your masculinity then posing with your muscles flexed in front of the mirror. I used to let them feed me to return the favor, (us icahobod cranes are bottomless pits lol) and it allowed enough time and interaction to get us both comfortable for the next step. If she doesnt at least appreciate your gift, dont keep giving it.
Intent. Like Mojo said...Its tricky.
If youve created a dynamic where you have to earn sex, (and why would she want to change that? Its the worlds oldest profession. ) then your going to have to fix it in your head first, before you can change it. If you look at Mojo relate her experiences to us, its the guy who is coming in with that belief.
