Originally Posted By: wordweaver
They say either get rid of the husband or put the marriage on hold for two years until she is 18.


that is the worst possible advice imaginable. These people do not know what they are talking about; quit talking to them about your marriage!!!!

You cant "put a marriage on hold". That's kind of like deciding to not take care of your dog for 2 years. either it will die, or run away.

Is your job as a parent, to be your daughter's best friend, or to be a parent? Seems like one of the most important jobs you can do as a parent, is teach your children, what commitment to marriage looks like.

If you stick with your husband and work things out with him... you may lose your daughter as a "friend"... but how do you think you'd be doing on the "parent" scale?

Last edited by Dom R; 01/03/08 01:13 AM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle