I know you are, especially when you believed that they were on your side.
You are a good father and will get them through this. I can't imagine what you are going through worrying about them. Im sorry for that. I would be the same way.
((hugs))
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I think its good for you to see your attorney and get your ducks in a row.
be careful with your kids. I would never refer to one as a trump card...make sure you do whatever you can to make things easy on THEM. not for your wife's sake, but because its the right thing to do for your kids. sounds like you are going to have to be especially careful of the middle one.
yeah, the inlaw thing doesn't surprise me at all. trust me, mine love me very much, I've been like family for them, if anything I've been there for them more than h has been. but in the end, blood is simply thicker than water.
take care of yourself. I can't remember, are you in any kind of therapy?
(((HUGS)))
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
be careful with your kids. I would never refer to one as a trump card...make sure you do whatever you can to make things easy on THEM. not for your wife's sake, but because its the right thing to do for your kids. sounds like you are going to have to be especially careful of the middle one.
Sally - What I meant was that my only chance of saving the marriage is the unlikely event that she considers the kids. She is focusing exclusively on herself, at the expense of the kids.
The boys are old enough to know the truth... that she alone wants the divorce.
Originally Posted By: SallyM
take care of yourself. I can't remember, are you in any kind of therapy?
My only therapy is here on DB. I know, I should see a professional. But, at this point, I see my money as better spent on an attorney.
Oh Mark. I am glad you are seeing an attorney. This is the time to protect you, the kids, and your financial situation. I am so sorry about the betrayal you are feeling (all justified!). I know so well that its not so much anger as it is hurt and betrayal.
mark, do you have health insurance? h's at his last job covered our therapy. unfortunately the insurance at his new job does as well, but not my therapist, and I am too connected to leave her. she cut me a rate and its money well spent. just something to consider, because honestly, i don't know how I could do this without her.
good luck. will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Oh Mark. I am glad you are seeing an attorney. This is the time to protect you, the kids, and your financial situation. I am so sorry about the betrayal you are feeling (all justified!). I know so well that its not so much anger as it is hurt and betrayal.
My heart goes out to you tonight.
Thanks, lwb. Much hurt. Subsequent emails from her boyfriend's wife revealed even more. But I am OK.... I will post more below...
mark, do you have health insurance? h's at his last job covered our therapy. unfortunately the insurance at his new job does as well, but not my therapist, and I am too connected to leave her. she cut me a rate and its money well spent. just something to consider, because honestly, i don't know how I could do this without her.
good luck. will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sally, our insurance charges $25 per visit. I would rather sock that away for an attorney. I consider this board therapy. Once the D is final, I will go to therapy, no doubt about that.
