granted, your h could be like my h and feed you a load of bs...h told me he thought it would help things with us, bring us closer, etc, etc. It wasn't until later that I got the, "this is what couples do when they end relationships" speech.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
H approached me today and asked me to honestly answer questions. Umm, ok. Never have lied, but go ahead.....
1) Do I have feelings for anyone? 2) Have I kissed anyone? 3) Have I done anything with anyone? 4) Has anyone been in my car?
There were a few more, but along the same lines. I answered them honestly and he seemed to actually believe me. He offered the info that he hasn't seen OW since before Christmas. I told him that I will always assume they are seeing each other, but am not asking anymore. We talked about sex, how it would mean more to me than it would him, and he asked "How do I know it means anything to you? And how can you say it doesn't mean anything to me?". I told him I wouldn't be with him if I had no feelings for him. And that I can't be with him knowing he is with OW as well. We kind of left it at that. Getting along fine. Will tackle things later because.......
D6 isn't well. Her stomach is hardly any better since starting her 2 weeks of intense meds. Tomorrow is the start of testing, blood draw and some x-rays. I have to say I am a bit worried, I can handle strep throat, something clear cut, but this has me worried.
WOW that he approached you like that and with those kind of questions. He wouldn't ask I don't believe if it didn't bother him. Also I know it's my take on things but I see it as very positive that 1. he said sex would mean something to him. 2. That he divulged that he isn't seeing OW right now.
Maybe it would be a great time to talk to him about how you feel. That you love him and find him sexy. That you want so badly to make love to him and to be married to him. But you do have this hurt with what he has done. I once told my husband I loved him and I really thought we could make this work. But he had to understand that from time to time the hurt he caused might rear it's ugly head. He would have to be patient with that. But honestly I think communication is the key. I don't see it as pursuing to tell the men you married what you are feeling in your heart. It almost seems like he is feeling things out a bit.
I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Do you think it could maybe be all the antibiotics and medicines she has been on? This happened to my daughter. Her doctor put her on this natural medication to put the good bacteria back into the stomach. When an antibiotic is taken it can rob the stomach of it's good bacteria. She was having lots and lots of stomach trouble.
I'm so sorry your D6 is having problems. It's the hardest thing when they're hurting and we don't know why and can't fix it! My D went through something similar when she was 5-6. She had a stomach ache every day and the Dr. couldnt find anything wrong. He said it was prob anxiety. We didn't know for awhile, but he was right. One of her friends called the house to talk to her and while I was on the phone her friend mentioned that she had a tummy ache every day. I talked to my D later and found out that this friend was unhappy and always complaining about something. My D was anxious and nervous about that and she had a tummy ache every day too. Strange I know, but when the school year ended and she didn't see this friend every day, her tummy stopped hurting. She was worrying herself sick about her friends problems!
I hope all your D's tests turn out find and she's feeling better soon.
That you want so badly to make love to him and to be married to him. But you do have this hurt with what he has done
Thanks trying...I think I might start up some sort of R talk in the near future. A last ditch effort, so to speak. If he isn't willing to change anything, then I need to move on.
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Do you think it could maybe be all the antibiotics and medicines she has been on?
Thanks. She has been on Axel for reflux, to decrease/level out her stomach acids. No antibiotics at all.
Thank you piglet. For a long time, I thought it was anxiety (starting full day kindy) and a part of me still hopes/thinks it is (and that it will pass!), but even SHE asked to go back to the doctor.
