Happy New Year to All I has been a long time since I posted on this board. I was on this board for many years and then on to surviving the divorce. Yes I did divorce. Will be 4 years on the 8th of Jan. I just want you all to know there is happiness on the other side. I know the pain,anger, betrayal, and broken hearts that you are feeling. It will be better. Everyone heals in a different way and on a different time scale. I guess because my X-H cheated on me, I healed at a faster pace. He would not give her up and was not about to share. I have to say though at the time I thought that my life was over without him. What did I know. I am enjoying my life like I never have before. Just remember you deserve the best. You all are special people. God Bless Happy New Year
Pam, Happy New Year to you as well. I hope all is going well in your world and the grandchildren are doing well.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Happy New Year Miss Pammie, I am glad life is good for you but you made it so and really deserve it. Just had my first christmas with a grandchild in the house-do all toys have to make a noise these days! My daughter sees her dad next week -first contact in over seven years!!! He will see his grandson too. May 2008 bring you peace and happiness.
Wow, Pam comes here and opens a thread and all the oldies post!
Hello and Happy New Year to Pam, Snodderly, Naej & everyone else!
Pam speaks the truth. I started here over 6 years ago, thinking my world had ended. In truth, I just had to go down a new road and life is still full of discoveries every day.
Like my friends here - we didn't know what was going to happen but we did our best to pick up our pieces and make lemonade out of our lemons (for years that was the theme of my threads).
I raised 3 kids on my own - ex married his OW and they're still together. But that doesn't matter. Because I have my own life. Yes, a boyfriend, but he is not my whole world. I have new friends, new hobbies and a continuing close R with my children.
I think the hardest part for me was the fear of the unknown. But it has all worked out just fine.
I'm all for marriage saving when you possibly can. But it takes 2 and when doesn't want it - you have to do what is best for you!
Snodderly It has been such a long time since I posted to you. I am doing great. I had my kidney transplant 2 years ago. I am working full-time. I have 3 grand-daughters now. The youngest is 3 months old. How is Sting? Life is what you make it.
Naej There is nothing like the love from the grand-babies is it. Yes all toys make noise or a mess. Hey I love it. I must, because I keep buying them. My youngest son and his family will see his Dad this Saturday. First time in a year. He is still a strange man. He has nothing to do with his kids or grand-kids. Oh well it is the walk- a -way's loss and our gain.
Barb It has really been a long time since we have posted on this side of the board. I doubt anyone going through the pain we also went through believes what we are saying. They will hopefully in turn one day post to someone else that is hurting. I don't wish that kind of pain on anyone. Girl you need to shut that Canadian door. It is going to be 15% here in South tomorrow night. My bones don't like cold weather. Had my kids and grand-kids for dinner tonight. It was loud, but the house was full of love as usual. It just doesn't get any better than hearing your kids pick on each other or making plans to go out together. I now have a family of 8. We all get along. We share the love and laughter that we have worked so hard to obtain, since the X tried to tear our family apart.
We made it Barb. Life is great. I wouldn't turn back to that old life for anything. You can't see the forest for the trees. Geez it took me a while, but I really know what that sentence really means as I know you guys do also. Happy New Year God Bless
Pam: Our wind chill is going to be 23 below! I saw on the news that they're encouraging everyone to STAY INDOORS! Works for me - I have my hobbies and my kitties and my fireplace! Yep - I'm good for a bit.
It was a long time and it was a difficult time. Do you remember the Kumquat Christmas and your leather jacket? Naej's shoebox? We just cried and cried that Christmas. Silly - no one is worth all those tears. Saw my ex the other day at the funeral home. He looks terrible. Got glasses when MLC hit him and hasn't looked like himself since. Funny thing - he wouldn't let maggot into the Funeral home with him. Hmmm - somethings changed there! LOL!
Someday I'll have grandchildren too. My kids are not ready. So I guess I'm not either. It does sound like fun, though.
Barb Okay I will shut up about my 15 degree weather. Girl they would not have to tell me to stay inside if our weather was 23 below. I guess it is what you get use to. As for the memories, they were well learned lessons don't you think. Oh Yes, I rememeber the kumquat Christmas. The Christmas of 2000 was the worst though. That was the year things blew up and X tried to keep his woman a secret. Silly Man. Why couldn't Maggot go in the funeral home? That is strange. So is he. Oh Barb, you will be the best grand-mother, when the time comes. Watching my son, with his new little girl is the best. After Will died I didn't think he would ever experience the love a child can give you. He is such a good Dad and husband. Hope the weather warms up soon for you sweetie. We will be in the 60's Saturday. I'll be dancing around again. Luv Ya Girl
Pam: What a difference a couple more years makes. I remember April/May 05 so well. Will died. You had your transplant. And my Mom's cancer took over our lives. The next month she died and my divorce was final. What a difficult time. And I remember thinking about you so much.
But it is wonderful that there is new life for both of us and also for your son. Another precious grandaughter to love. You are one lucky lady.
I think there's either trouble between Chuck and maggot or his family just doesn't accept her. I'm really not sure. Truly, it would give me great pleasure if they split and he moved on to someone new. Or noone at all. Better for my kids, for sure.
It is sunny today so it doesn't feel so cold. IT IS though.
Thanks for posting Pam....Nice to see that there really is life after all of this pain.
Take care and stay warm!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Pammie! You sound terrific!! Its nice to post to the new people and let them know that it does turn out all right, in fact better then alright! Its not what you want to hear at first, but you remember it when you need to, and recall those who went before on the journey and let you know all will be fine.
I am so glad you are doing well! cant believe all that has happend!
Like you, I love my life now, after fighting for years for my M, I have mixed feelings, why did I waste so much time on someone who so obviously didnt care enough about me? but then again, happy with myself for fighting for my M, for myself, and my S and even my ex.
So it all turned out better then ok!
Have a fantastic '08 Pammie!!! come see us sometime ya hear?
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
