talked to GS today about the dog, but he is still relucltant. I hate to have hard feelings over this and my H is not supporting my wishes....so once again, I'll be the bad guy. I always have been in my family and guess I always will be
Does "bad guy" mean the one who makes decisions and gets things done when they need to be done?
If so, clearly that IS your role, and in this group of people, that will continue to be your role.
OTOH, this is who your H is:
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my H is still dragging his tail about getting anything done
SOMETHING has to change. Here's an idea: change your side of things a bit. Instead of you being the one to nag and nag and suggest and wait for others to do things, then finally getting fed up and doing them yourself AFTER you've worried yourself into an ulcer... why not give one warning and then do what needs doing IMMEDIATELY.
For example, you say to your H or whoever: "The [blank] needs to be [blanked]. Either you take care of it by Tuesday, or I will have it hauled away/sell it/ burn it/etc." Then follow through!
So: "We've had a complaint from the city about the cars. Either you solve this problem by Tuesday, or I will have the cars hauled away and you can explain to the bank."
Same with the taxes, the dog, whatever needs doing that you are lying in bed all night fretting about!
Sandi, you cannot continue like this. You cannot change him. You cannot make him do what needs doing when it needs doing. He11, if the IRS doesn't motivate him, what makes you think YOU can???
Please, please, please take that dog to a new home where he can have a decent life.
