Charcoal,
you two have been thru so very much....
how about getting H a card telling him that even though you
don't verbally tell him your proud of him, that you do see the changes and are hopeful for the future???
Or one of your amazing poems??
Or a hot bubble bath?

it will come together...

kip


"Those who don't read, have no advantage over those who can't" Mark Twain