Charcoal,
Have you experimented with different ways to voice your discontent that maybe won't set H off so much?

When you voice discontent do you unknowingly point fingers of blame at your H?

What truly different ways of communicating your unhappiness have you tried or thought about?

Just something to think about this AM.

A dream it's true But I'd see it through If I could be Wasting my time with you -Band:Phish Song:Waste