"It seems like we can never really talk about the things I need to tell you and speak with you about.The conversation always goes back to "we can make this work and be happy". The bottom line is I am filing for divorce and our marriage is over. I appreciate and respect the effort you have put into making positive changes. Mostly, I love how it has improved your relationship with D8 - she has wanted attention from you for so long and you never really gave it to her. However, my feelings are not going to change and while you think I am "quitting", I feel I will be "giving in" if I stay. I owe it to myself to be happy and I want you to be happy more than anything. Most importantly, we need to handle this right with the kids and keeping them out of our details is definitely best. We need to tell them that we aren't good together and although we tried, we know it is best to live apart. They can't see you sad and depressed and certainly shouldn't be hearing that you want to make it work and that I don't. The next chapter in our lives should be about doing what is right for the kids. They need both of us. And we need to stay positive and let them know everything will be ok. And it will be ok.
I suggested a parenting plan and we have not discussed this. What do you think? Let me know if you disagree, otherwise, I will tell my lawyer what I suggested. Also, I know I told you I want you to move out - will you do this without a fight? It will get very expensive if we can't agree on things. I will even help you find a place if you want. It will be important to get and furnish a place where the kids can call it home. The last thing we will need to start to figure out is our finances. I will take over the payments of this house and all utilities. I need you to pass along this info so when I open my own checking account, I can set everything up under my name. This may seem like it is happening too fast for you but you have to understand that the longer we drag it out, the worse it is for everyone.
