Hi Elusive Butterfly and Pfroglady. Thank you both so much for taking the time to read my posting and offer all your support. This has really been helping me. My H is still swearing to me that this will never happen again. I want to beleive him but there is no trust right now. I just came back from my therapist and she told me I will get over this and move on but I have to get tougher with him. He seems to only respond when I put my foot down. Tonight we see the therapist together. This morning my H left for work in good spirits and told me he wants us to be happy again and get on with life, but he still hasn't told me that he loves me. My therapist says he does but he's a child that needs to grow up.I have "babied" him our entire life together. She's right I have. I'm pretty certain he has no feelings for the OW and she hasn't called anymore, well not that I know of at least. I just need to find it in me to get strong and not take anymore of his whining about why he did it and that he's confused about the way he feels. Elusive Butterfly, I have heard so many stories like the one you wrote about. You are right that man used the tragedy as an excuse. That day my H got stuck in the city and I was never more afraid in my life then at that time. He made it home and I hung on to him. Little did I know he was somewhere else. Anyway, coming here has been truly a blessing for me. I have found wonderful people to talk to and I will be sticking around. Hopefully one day I'll get through this and be able to help someone else....NikkiNY
