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[Lanzo]

If W hits you with anger about the legal & financial stuff you need to stay cool. Then calmly explain that this is all part of the D process, neither of you want it but it has to be done for the financial security of all of you (including your young D). After it is sorted you both can get on with the other D & separation matters and discuss them in a friendly and civil manner. Also you both have to work together at co parenting.

If you take this approach you will project an image of someone who is at peace with the situation. Discussing the D with W means she can't fight you on. This approach will show you're losing the fear.