"If only you did every little thing the way I want, then I could feel secure/love you fully/have sex/show affection" is GARBAGE and not workable and also not true. Whatever you do, it will never be "right" or enough.
Thats exactly how I feel.. It doenst matter what hoops I jusp through, there will always be *something* I should have said, should have done, didnt do right.. etc... Like the last time we had sex, on Christmas day. I had spent Friday evening on the couch with her (fighting because 2 weeks prior she said she wanted to visit her dad on her time off and she was mad because I didnt read her clue that she wanted me to invite myself to go. I assumed that "I want to go visit my dad on my time off" to mean *I*- silly me...), all day saturday, we went to my parents on Sunday. Stayed on the couch together all day Monday, then on tuesday I started kissing her and fianlly got somewhere. We had sex, a few minutes later I got up and went to the couch and asked if she wanted to go see a movie. She said no, that i could, she didnt mind. She waited until the next week to tell me she was pissed that I left to go see a movie on Christmas day. That I 'got what I wanted' then got up and left.
