Hey Charcoal, Haven't checked your sitch out in a while but I'm glad to see you're doing relatively well and that you are still working on your M.
As far as the communication thing and the circular motion of the "what do you wanna do, I don't know what do you wanna do" type talks I can relate. This was always a problem with me and my W.
I think maybe you need to take charge here. Make a plan and stick to it. Maybe you'll go out to eat and talk about the R if he's open to talking about the R. Then when you do go be armed with topics. You be the one to take the lead in the conversation.
Reread the part in DR about how when one person acts, the other reacts, and so on in a circular fashion. You two are communicating in that way, you need to change the way you're communicating and see how he reacts differently. Be the one to initiate the change. It's results you want, so do what you can to get them. Never mind the frustration that he isn't being more decisive.
Anyways, this is advice I'd love to be in the position to give myself now..advice I should've took long ago but I digress.
Feel free to check out how my sitch has been developing the past couple weeks. I sure could use as much of a woman's point of view on my W's current state of mind as possible. Keep up the good work here.
A dream it's true
But I'd see it through
If I could be
Wasting my time with you
-Band:Phish Song:Waste
