There's a lot in common between what you're talking about and the concept of Other: Open to Desire and the concept of Other.
Yes, there is. Thanks for that link... I'll read through that one again.
I think power dynamics play a key role in the concept of Other and Desire, though, and how being in a One Up or One Down position can keep you from seeing yourself, or your partner, as separate. I don't think we engage in power struggles on purpose... it may just start out as something as innocent as a counter-balance measure for the R... but then all the sudden... boom... I have a role to fill and so do you.
I guess that is why my shrink always hounded on me about giving up my notion of right or wrong, and redirecting my energies to solving the problem. I look at that sentence I just wrote and kinda smile because it sounds so darn simple and easy. Ha Ha.
