The boundries thing is not very good it is hard to deal with those things while at work. I know that just hanging up on him may hurt him also. Remeber this also he is feeling very insecure. All of us feel this way. I know that I can some times. I dont know when my W is joking or being serious. Anyway maybe try having something that you would like to do in mind and next time your husband wants to do something say yeah let go do this! That will probably catch him off guard and then you 2 can go and do an activity together. Thus helping him starting to believe that you arent really going anywhere and helping your get that feeling of connection back. Just my 2 cents though.
