Wife in Major MLC...Looking to Vent

[bombardier50]

Try Too Hard, I think you hit the nail on the head. I'm patiently waited for the illusions to fall away, but I think I have a ways to go. And just as you said, I wonder if I'm going to become so detached...we'll see.

She has been in the throes of her MLC for over a 18 months, although it's hard to pinpoint the real turn in her behavior. Starting about a year ago, I started to become depressed and withdrawn about our relationship, but was still grappling with the reason. I knew something was wrong...just couldn't quite wrap my head around it. Of course, the whole time she was denying there was any problem and was doing a convincing job of blaming me for everything. About three months ago I started to come out of my fog of denial. I can't tell how long the road is ahead of me...and I'm not sure I want to know.

Workin' hard on the healthy, happy, and whole thing. But I gotta ask everyone for some help here:

One of the hardest things I'm dealing with right now are those old images in my head of her and I together, making love (she was great in the sack), laughing, holding hands...those images in my head just tear me to pieces. I wish I could just make them stop, but all it takes is to watch a movie, or see another couple on the street holding hands, and I just get sick inside. I just want those pictures to stop...please...please...please...