Charcoal, I'm am tickled to see that things are starting to get better for you and your h. Sometimes starting over will provide you w/pleasant surprises, i.e., learning about the other spouse all over again. You'll be pleasantly surprised at the changes you both have made and how much more mature and fulfilling your marriage will be. I'm really happy for you. You've come a long way, despite everything. Wishing you all of the best!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
