I am soo glad to see you changeing your thinking day by day. In a weird, off the beaten track sort of way, it almost appears that you are "enjoying" (for lack of a better term) the efforts you and Mat are starting to place in your marriage. Even on your own behalf, you seem to be finding yourself again.
I am very happy for you and wish you the best of luck.
As well, thanks for posting to my thread the other day.