In the last 10 plus months I have come to the realization that H is the guy in the bar who doesn't signal an interest. It would behoove me now as it did when I was young to pass that guy by and move on.
What has happened over and over again on this BB is that when the HD partner can dispassionately see the LD partner as that "guy in the bar showing no interest" then the HD partner is able to clearly signal "moving on" at which point everything changes. However, in order for things to improve at that point both partners have to make an equal, honest commitment towards being both sexual and sexy or you can end up with a situation like mine where I was literally disgusted with my 2bx once he finally vibed sexual.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
