boobear, the saying that God will never give us more than we can handle comes from this... "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (1 Corinthians 10:13).
The Message Bible gives a loose translation of that verse, but I like it.... 1 Corinthians 10:13 (The Message) No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he'll never let you be pushed past your limit; he'll always be there to help you come through it.
Boobear, after you pray for strength to not call your wife, come here and we'll hold you down until it passes!
seekpeaceofmind, great post! Thanks for the reminder! My first marriage IS over whether or not we reconcile. That's one reason I took off my wedding ring yesterday. I don't know my h anymore, and I hope that he'll change, and we can start our "second" marriage both better people.
Oops, forgot to address OP... Stacey, You WILL get through this. Your daughter needs to see you face this head-on with dignity. She needs to know that her daddy needs to turn back to God in order to come home, and that you have self-worth enough to know that NONE of this is your fault. (And, very important, at age 11, she needs to be told that NONE of this is HER fault as well). She needs to see you in control and holding yourself together, so she can be allowed to be the weak one here. All this I gathered from my own parents divorce when I was 13.
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Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
