Charcoal: Sorry to hear your news. Not sure what to say. I've heard enough divorce statements from my wife that I kind of let them flow by anymore. They still hurt, don't get me wrong, but what can I do? Haven't heard too many recently, but no "R" work being done either -- just plenty of space for her to deal with what to do about me and her childhood/mother issues.
Sounds like your H is reaching here, if it's truly over those two statements. Yours seems hopeful, his seems more "positive thinking," but in the long run, why does it matter? Wonder what he really wants to say?
He seems to be looking for space, like my W. Maybe he has to use the D word to emphasize his need for space -- to somehow push himself away from the sitch. With some space, however he needs to achieve it, maybe some clarity will come.
Re. your Monday "R" talk, yes, I'd say men think of love as a bond, something to protect. BUT, it takes some giving, caring, etc. in order to protect the bond, seems to me. So I don't see them as all that different, in some respects, like the conclusion you came to. But a question: How do you "give" protection?
Going back aways in your thread, glad to hear that your H does help out some around the house and with the kids, etc. Anyway, good luck with this latest turn. Vista
