Hey Bomb, sorry about the difficulties you are having.

Sounds like your wife is having a "I'm fifty, kids grown and gone, my life should now be moving toward senior citizens discounts and frequent physician check-ups and I don't feel old at all. Who's this old guy I'm married too? I feel old with him which makes me unhappy so he is the reason I am unhappy, time to trade-in for a newer model."

Your wife will find out pretty quick that she is exactly that, a middle-aged woman looking to reclaim her youth. Even if rich, married best friend makes her feel good right now, it won't last. If he's that rich, he doesn't need to waste time with a 50 year old woman, there are plenty of 20 something gorgeous women who would be interested (in his money).

Work on you. Reality will never fall out from underneath you, only illusions will. When her illusions (delusions) of youth fall out from underneath her, she will naturally look to you and if you are healthy, happy and whole, she will try to get back in your good graces. Problem is, alot of LBS's have detached so well and move so far on that it is too late for the WAS.

Work on you, your health and vitality. The things that energize and revitalize you and help you to feel great. Get the book "The Dark Side of The Light Chasers" by Debra Ford. Fantastic book with lots of insight into how people project their issues onto others and how we can avoid the same.

Take care bomb.

Call the credit card companies and tell them that the cards were stolen/lost. They will stop all activity on the current cards and re-issue new ones with different numbers. You can decide to share them or not (NOT!!!).

Go to the post office and divert all your mail to a post-office box so she can't get her hands on the new cards or any other correspondance. If you are the primary on all the bills, this will keep her in the dark about everthing.

If you have direct deposit into a joint account, stop it and divert it to an account in your name only. If you have automatic drafts from that joint account, transfer only the amount to cover the draft if needed or change the draft to your account only.

Take care of yourself!

p.s. I am female in my forties, H had a similar MLC as your wife but is now almost back home full time and committed to our relationship.

Last edited by trytoohard; 01/02/08 07:06 PM.
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