Well, it's been a very good past few days. I felt good about spoiling husband (as much as our budget allows) on Christmas morning. He got me some Gwen Stefani perfume (love it), a Red Hot Chili Peppers cd and a couple sets of body wash and lotion from Bath & Body Works. I think I already mentioned that he acted miffed that he did not get the "smooth" wife he wanted. Oh, and did I mention that he now says his request was for me to be shaved for a YEAR! I don't remember that being discussed at all. Well, I was pretty close to letting the whole thing totally piss me off, but tried to let it go and gave him his most desired gift on our night out at a hotel. On the 28th, he had the day off that I had arranged for him, we had some somewhat stressful scrambling around in preparation for company the next day, but got the kids off to the babysitter. I gave him his sexy coupon book, although it WASN'T PERFECT. It was only half finished really. I actually let him choose the 24 coupons he most wanted from a list I had on the computer. (2 for each month of the year). He didn't say a whole lot but seemed to really like it. Maybe I'll post the ones we decided on later. Finally, we headed off for the hotel. It was pretty simple really but GREAT! The hotel I had made reservations at (Hyatt Place) was contemporarily (sp??) styled and not a kid in sight. lol! I brought a new nightie, I was wearing a new bra and panties and when we got settled in the room, I gave him a sampler pack of KY, a hand held electric massager that glowed red (I bought it at Kohl's so it wasn't like something we'll have to hide), and a pack of Rock Star energy drink. He wanted to wait until later to do anything, but I suggested right away and told him to rent an adult movie he liked while I went for ice. We watched that and had great noisy sex. THen, we went out and had a nice meal. He took my coat as we sat down, which he NEVER does. Came back and watched another movie, the Heartbreak Kid, with Ben Stiller. FUNNY! We laughed so hard. Ate dessert in bed. He actually brought some pot, which he got from a friend and had had for a long time. I haven't smoked pot in years, but we sat in the bathroom and smoked it and had more good sex. Then watched another movie. It was a terrific time. I told him I wanted to make this a regular present we do for each other on birthdays/Christmas and Valentine's Day. That would cover Feb/Jun/Nov & Dec. ;-D
New Year's Eve, we went out to a family type party and had a great time. I got drunk, of course and I guess things had been going so well between us that I was just feeling very positive towards him. I rubbed him and gave him a blo#job on the way home. Then, I don't really remember much, but I know we had some more noisy hot sex. I asked him the next morning what we did and he told me. I remembered it all but it was foggy. I actually initiated one of the things he covets the most. I even asked him to do it harder and I begged him for more. So...that went well. The next day, I prodded him a bit to share what that felt like for him, emotionally. I know I was compliment fishing, but I felt that was a pretty big move for us and I knew I would benefit from some positive strokes regarding all we had done. I asked him if he was having any flashbacks to the night before and unfortunately he said no, not really. Hmph. I had let him go to a movie by himself that he had been wanting to see (Alien v. Predator 2) which I would have had zero interest in. He acted kinda dumb and said, "not during the movie." I got a bit huffy and said, no any time today. He finally caught on to what I was asking him and said that it was great. Later that night we ordered pizza and I made a joke about how I apparently don't cook anymore and he said if I keep up how I was the night before, he'd be fine if I never cooked again. We had a laugh about it and the atmosphere has been a good one.
I have several times tried to GENTLY remind him that me coming out of my shell sexually would be even easier if he would push himself to come out of his shell romantically. He says he is trying, but I think his idea of being romantic is simply wearing cologne. That and trying to get along is all I have noticed. Maybe he is attempting to be more loving and communicative, but no grand gestures as of yet.
He mentioned that he has another counseling appt Monday. He is just content going alone now, so I guess that's fine. He doesn't mention the past anymore, which I am VERY thankful for.
Hope everyone out there is doing well! Red, glad you and hubby are doing great too!!
On the 28th, he had the day off that I had arranged for him, we had some somewhat stressful scrambling around in preparation for company the next day, but got the kids off to the babysitter. I gave him his sexy coupon book, although it WASN'T PERFECT. It was only half finished really. I actually let him choose the 24 coupons he most wanted from a list I had on the computer. (2 for each month of the year). He didn't say a whole lot but seemed to really like it. Maybe I'll post the ones we decided on later. Finally, we headed off for the hotel. It was pretty simple really but GREAT! The hotel I had made reservations at (Hyatt Place) was contemporarily (sp??) styled and not a kid in sight. lol! I brought a new nightie, I was wearing a new bra and panties and when we got settled in the room, I gave him a sampler pack of KY, a hand held electric massager that glowed red (I bought it at Kohl's so it wasn't like something we'll have to hide), and a pack of Rock Star energy drink. 
He wanted to wait until later to do anything, but I suggested right away and told him to rent an adult movie he liked while I went for ice. We watched that and had great noisy sex. THen, we went out and had a nice meal. He took my coat as we sat down, which he NEVER does. Came back and watched another movie, the Heartbreak Kid, with Ben Stiller. FUNNY! We laughed so hard. Ate dessert in bed. He actually brought some pot, which he got from a friend and had had for a long time. I haven't smoked pot in years, but we sat in the bathroom and smoked it and had more good sex. Then watched another movie. It was a terrific time. I told him I wanted to make this a regular present we do for each other on birthdays/Christmas and Valentine's Day. That would cover Feb/Jun/Nov & Dec. ;-D
