Recently Married into a sexless marriage

[Kettricken]

I only have a moment, sorry. I understand (some) of your reasons for staying. But if your reporting is accurate, you have a lot more problems than sex. This matter of "You didn't say it right" or "If you only did this or that" is a HUGE problem that has to be addressed NOW. "If only you did every little thing the way I want, then I could feel secure/love you fully/have sex/show affection" is GARBAGE and not workable and also not true. Whatever you do, it will never be "right" or enough. And even if you did and it was, you would be no better than a slave. My best friend has been married to a guy who pulls this hypercritical perfectionist crap for 18 years. 18 miserable years. It will NOT go away on its own, more than likely. If you are determined to stay -- I would go so far as to say "as a condition for staying", but that's me -- get both of you to a *good* marriage counselor *immediately*.