It is interesting that you mention GP growling at you. H and I had an encounter like that once. So, is GP growling an example of the "real" him and H growling an example of him role playing something he isn't? Or is GP just more comfortable with who he actually is? Or is the R dynamic that you and GP have versus what H and I have a freer one in which GP can "be himself" whereas if he were with me he might squelch himself as H has?
NOP once posted something like that he was cool with a woman vibing submissive or dominant because he thought that as the man he should be able to carry any opposing role adequately. Part of what BF was trying to communicate by saying that LFL and you should "woman up" was that a sexually mature woman should be able to take on the same responsibility. However, I don't quite get how this fits in with the whole Deida- man should take the lead- philosophy. Anyways, I would say the difference between GP and your H is that GP was sexually experienced enough to "know the score" and motivated enough to sing it for me. Really, a guy acting out a fantasy to turn a woman on is no different than a guy taking action to bring a woman to orgasm. In most cases it's pleasurable to cause another person pleasure/arousal/orgasm. I don't think that LFL's H's recent behavior is reflective of some release of previously repressed fantasy. I think it's a simple matter of LFL's monkey behavior finally motivating him to do something she would like. IOW, he knew the basic score because she's told him a million times but he was reluctant to sing it for some reason, perhaps just performance-anxiety, but her recent behavior pushed him into a do-or-die situation and is often the case with such things, his fear was unwarranted and he actually enjoyed himself once the amusement park ride started going.
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