The way I hear Corri is, if you think your W has an arousal/desire problem, she will always have an arousal/desire problem.
Add to the end of the sentence "in your (Cemar's) eyes."
Cemar, HD's sexual moratorium allowed him to shelve EVERYTHING about his sexual relationship with his wife, including her "arousal/desire problem." This provided the break he needed to shed his old behavior/thinking patterns that were not working for him, and come back to the R from a different perspective.
Cemar, you are clinging desperately to your image of your wife. It is like a big, dark cloud blocking out the sun in your life. It is holding you hostage. And as long as you continue to cling to all your negativity, you will never see any improvement in your sex life, because you are not open to that possibility.
Now, I don't expect that this will make any impression on you at all, but I wrote it out anyway.
