Ingrid had asked if I had read 5LL. Yes, I read it a few months back, when I was in my "read every R book I can get my hands on stage." I found it SO useful- why didn't I find it 5 years ago? From reading the book, I think h's main LL is physical affection, although WOA might be secondary. I've been trying to occassionally give him small gestures of physcial affection over the last few months (touches on his arm or back, hugs when it feels welcome), but it is so hard when I don't want to be seen as pursuing or clingy. I've also been making an effort to thank him for the things that he does for me or does around the house. Small drips into the love cup- maybe they'll add up to something over time.
