I'm all for men helping with the kids/dinner (actually, I would kill for one of those! lol) but I think you might want to not be so available, not be there every single time, perhaps she'll actually appreciate what you do when you are not around (or perhaps not). My point is, GAL and make YOURself whole first, make yourself scarce sometimes, give her a chance to see what it is to be be a single parent, you do not, I repeat, do not have to make her life easier out of guilt.
I always suggest exercise to ALL, it lifts your spirits --and does wonders for your muscles!., it is something just for you, join a class, go running, do something for yourself. If your simple invite made her feel so pressured, then some space should help defuse things, clear the air a bit.
Take care Mike, you are in my prayers))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Mike, Your wife is no longer entitled to the benefits of having a husband. You're making her life way too easy. Why would she want to commit? That would mean she'd have to put forth some effort? She gets you, and all your help, and doesn't have to give anything? That doesn't mean that you ignore her if she asks for help, it simply means that you're not ALWAYS available, sometimes she needs to be told, "sorry. I have other plans. Can't make it tonight." -THAT will make her head spin!
Give her something to think about. She doesn't miss you. She hasn't had a chance to.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
