A part of me wants to call or text OW and see if she knows that he has been with me the past week and a half. Tell her the things he has been saying to me. I didn't say I was going to I just said I WANT to. I know it wouldn't be constructive.
ummm, NO, don't do it, chances are you will get hurt and lied to. Had to say it just in case you decide to do it, ow lied to me and made things worse.
Let him move at HIS pace, dont' ask him to say the night, dont' try to solve things for him, let every decision he makes his own. I think it is a good sign he actually put some money down for an appt, that's a huge leap of faith, give him some credit for that. Trust is slow in coming when you've been hurt and I totally understand that you dont' want to be back where things were bad, that you shouldn't accept him back until you both do come counceling and talk things out.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
