Huge Hugs to you. I'm so sorry. I wish we could just snap our fingers and make the pain go away. I'd do ANYTHING to be able to do that right now for all of us.
It seems like from your previous posts that despite your desire to believe your H, you had your suspicions. The call from OW, his not wanting you to call his parent's house, him not wanting to stay with you....etc. I'm sorry that your feelings were right.
I truly hope that someone can come on here and give you much better advice than I could. I just wanted you to know that I'm thinking about you and your kids.
Take care.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day