simply noticing in a non-reactive manner that somebody isn't "hugging you back" is half the problem solved. The "why?" isn't important. What is important is to simply behave appropriately.
Yeah, but my usual "appropriate" behavior is to be hurt and sad and guilty for doing something that makes her not want to hug me back, and resentful, and, well, you get the picture.
She's been pretty huggy lately, though.
Originally Posted By: lillieperl
My hat's off to you, hd, for maintaining any semblence of sexual desire for this woman. How do you do that?
I guess I'm a sucker for big breasts. Now, to work on being a sucker "OF" them. Also, I'm incredibly forgiving. And patient. And clean and reverent and ....
Originally Posted By: choc
I think the key will be to keep up your playfulness and humor, and even mix in a shot or two across her bow if she is rude or disrespectful to you (which is no doubt coming, at SOME point).
Yep. That's where Lou's reference to the Taken in Hand website may come in handy. Did I mention that everything I've done in the past hasn't worked, and that continuing to do it is "insane"? So, channeling my inner Petrucio, something that would have seemed SO wrong a few months ago, is beginning to suggest itself as "appropriate behavior" to me. It's like getting re-acquainted with Hairdog the college student, before he had to deal with feminists and sexual harassment seminars and sensitive-new-age crap.
Originally Posted By: choc
Maybe she missed you.
Stranger things have happened.
Originally Posted By: mrscac
Sounds like she has more respect for you now, HD, which, I would think could only be a good thing.
Well, I must say that I kept my word on a "sexual moratorium." I think she respects me for that, and it's likely that she did not expect me to follow it through to the end.
