I understand what you're saying, but sometimes in Jar's posts, it sounds like his W is used to having things done for her. Jar, is it possible that she does want the counseling, but is again having someone else do all the work for her?
Don't mean to offend, just seems like you've mentioned before that she was used to getting her way and having things done for her.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day