neither of us has unrealized expectations that cause us to get upset...
... I need to stand up and speak up when something really bothers me rather than just letting it build steam by staying quiet. =========== pretty much everyone's bones of contention. Seems he thinks it's ok to spend so much time at the shop since there are no plans laid out, so, in his mind he is doing no harm since there was "nothing" in the schedule. There are bound to be a few more special occasions coming up, make sure you both decide in advance what will happen. My H is terrible at planning anything, but he does ask "what should we do?" way ahead of time and I pretty much have more suggestions and then we make a decision.
Bring up what bothers you without accusatory tones, in a way that he doesn't feel he has to defend himself and it will help him to actually be able to see your point, letting it stew in your head will make it so that when you bring it up you will just be upset and nothing will get done.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
