HD,
To second what Choc said, watch out for the backlash. My DB counselor warned me about them. Just when you think there's been a step forward, the spouse will do or say something to wreck the moment and return to the old status quo. Watch out for that, and try to ignore it.

Bomb

Me: 51
W: 50
M 24 yrs
EA: since Apr 06
S22, S26, S28
ILYBNILWY:Nov 07

"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden