It is interesting that you mention GP growling at you. H and I had an encounter like that once. So, is GP growling an example of the "real" him and H growling an example of him role playing something he isn't? Or is GP just more comfortable with who he actually is? Or is the R dynamic that you and GP have versus what H and I have a freer one in which GP can "be himself" whereas if he were with me he might squelch himself as H has? I think very few people know the "real" person that their H is. I also think that who we want to be or what part of ourselves we want at the forefront changes over time. I fooled myself in the beginning of this R by seizing on a couple of examples of H's behavior that fit the mold I was looking to squeeze him into and ignoring the vat of examples of who he was.
