Hi Char - Everytime I'm away from these boards a while something always compells me to comeback and I always find something new. Between your posts and those of Dreama I don't know whether to be scared sh**less or have great hope for the future. Some of the similarities to my sitch are uncanny and you guys have given me great insight to what W must be feeling. Things are much different with W and I than they were even a few weeks ago, going in a new direction - I don't know whether it is closer or further away. I can only hope she can come to see it is worthwhile to work on. You appear to have great strength and be doing so well at this - hang in there and keep posting .